I was laughing hysterically at a funny story that a friend had told me over coffee this morning. It was about her mother who had passed away recently and after the fits of laughter had subsided she looked at me soberly and said that she would give anything to be able to hear her mother call her by her pet name one more time. I sympathised with her and mentally recalled several times in my own life that I had felt the same way about loved ones that were no longer here.
It made me think about how often I hear similar comments from friends or family. Wishes that someone could have had one last conversation with a loved one or simply just hear the voice of a friend one more time. Most often people tell me that they wish they had told someone that they had loved them. It’s a common sentiment yet we never really think about leaving some sort of legacy for our own loved ones in the event that something should happen to us. I suppose most of us think that it such a long way off and we are all so busy that we forget to tell the people that we love the most that we care about them.
My friend’s comment also made me think about how someone is remembered after they are gone and I always find myself listening to eulogies or reading obituaries of people I know and think that these grief filled passages often skirt around the edges but don’t really get to the core of who that person really was or what they were passionate about. I find it rather disappointing when I know that there was so much more to them than a few lines of sentiment.
It doesn’t have to be that way though. If you have ever found yourself missing a loved one who has passed or you just want to leave a legacy on your terms then think about writing a journal, a series of letters to your children or get started on your autobiography. You could even keep a photo or video diary. It may seem like a lot of effort now but your family will definitely appreciate the time you spent doing it.